By Erin Kershaw, Certified Concierge Care Advisor
Moving a Parent to Assisted Living: Making the Process Easier for Everyone
The thought of leaving a home you’ve lived in for years can feel overwhelming—even paralyzing. If possible, the conversation about senior living options should begin as soon as you recognize signs that Mom or Dad is slowing down or something feels off. Early discussions help ensure that decisions are made thoughtfully and with care, giving your parent a sense of security in the process.
Reassuring your loved one that your goal is to provide the best care possible sets the tone for a positive start. With empathy and open communication, you can help them focus not on what they are losing, but on the benefits they will gain by moving to a supportive community.
Focusing on What’s Gained, Not Lost
Many seniors struggle with the idea of moving because they feel they are giving up their independence. However, the transition to an Assisted Living Community or Adult Family Home offers benefits that can greatly improve their quality of life.
- Social Connection and Activities
- Aging often brings isolation. Seniors may lose touch with friends who have moved away, passed on, or are no longer able to meet regularly. If they can no longer safely drive to events, socialization becomes even harder.
- In a supportive living community, your parent will have opportunities to connect with others during meals, group activities, and outings. These connections can significantly reduce loneliness and foster new friendships.
- Peace of Mind for Families
- Knowing that their parent is in a safe, supportive environment can provide tremendous peace of mind for families. It ensures that your loved one is receiving daily care and that help is available at a moment’s notice.
Involving Your Loved One in the Process
It’s important to validate your parent’s concerns about moving. Encourage them to express their fears and write down any questions they may have. Bringing them into the conversation can help them feel more in control during the transition.
- Touring Communities Together: If your parent is still able to safely get around, invite them to tour communities or Adult Family Homes with you. This gives them the opportunity to explore options firsthand and participate in choosing their future home.
- Taking Photos: If your parent cannot attend tours, take pictures of the communities you visit. Sharing these photos and talking through the options can help them feel more involved, even from afar.
The key is to make decisions proactively. Moving before a crisis occurs allows your loved one to choose a place that meets their preferences, avoiding the stress of settling for less due to limited availability. Too often, families wait until the last minute, only to find that their top choices are no longer an option when they need them most.
Navigating Family Dynamics During the Transition
Discussions about how to handle your parents’ care can lead to disagreements among siblings, especially when multiple opinions come into play. Including all siblings in the decision-making process helps everyone stay aligned and ensures that all voices are heard.
A Concierge Care Advisor can assist with family discussions, helping you evaluate housing options and ensuring the focus remains on your parent’s care needs. Working with a neutral advisor can reduce family tensions and keep everyone on the same page.
The Importance of Planning Ahead
Sometimes, well spouses or caregivers will experience a life-altering event or pass away before the ill spouse. This underscores the importance of finding a safe living environment sooner rather than later, ensuring that care needs are met before an emergency occurs.
Think of this transition like dropping a child off at college—it’s a bittersweet moment. It’s natural to mourn the life your parent is leaving behind, but it’s also an opportunity for new beginnings. Moving to a supportive community is the start of a new season where your parent can thrive with the right care, activities, and friendships.
Let Concierge Care Advisors Help Guide the Transition
We understand that moving a parent to an Assisted Living Community or Adult Family Home can be challenging. Our experienced Concierge Care Senior Advisors are here to make the process easier and less stressful for everyone involved. We’ll help you explore personalized options and create a plan that ensures your parent’s well-being. Don’t wait until a crisis occurs—start planning today. Contact Concierge Care Advisors for a free consultation and let us guide you through the process of finding the perfect community for your loved one.
