By Donna Mischke
Recognizing Changes in Aging Loved Ones During the Holidays
Thanksgiving brings back happy memories of family and great food for me. The first 30 years of my life were spent blissfully at my Nana’s house. My grandmother could cook! Move over, Paula Deen—Nana’s pecan pie, homemade biscuits, corn, and green beans were legendary. To this day, I try to recreate her green beans, even though I don’t typically like them. Nana’s green beans were special, but she never shared her recipe. Cooking was her domain, her stage, her show.
As the years went by, it became harder for Nana to prepare her signature Thanksgiving feasts. The family grew larger, and Nana grew older. Relinquishing control of the kitchen wasn’t easy for her, but we knew it was time for a change. We had a family meeting to share our concerns, and while the adjustment was tough, it allowed us to keep enjoying memorable Thanksgivings together.
Holidays: A Time for Connection and Reflection
The holidays are often when we notice subtle—or not-so-subtle—signs that our aging loved ones may need additional support. Visits from out-of-town family, disrupted routines, and holiday stress can be challenging for anyone but are particularly hard on seniors. While these gatherings are filled with joy and nostalgia, they also provide a valuable opportunity to observe changes in your loved one’s physical or emotional health.
If you’re visiting an elderly loved one’s home, pay attention to:
- The condition of their home: Is it less clean and organized than you remember?
- Food storage: Check for expired items in the refrigerator or pantry.
- Neighbor insights: Have a friendly chat with their neighbors about any noticeable changes.
If they’re visiting you, watch for changes in their behavior:
- Social discomfort: Do they seem uneasy or embarrassed in a group setting?
- Emotional shifts: Are they anxious, overwhelmed, or unusually forgetful?
- Honest conversations: Ask them how they’ve been doing and listen attentively.
You know your loved one best—trust your instincts. If something feels off, it’s worth exploring further.
Starting the Conversation
Thanksgiving is a time to cherish family and reflect on cherished memories, but it can also be the perfect moment to begin discussions about your loved one’s future. These conversations can feel daunting, but addressing potential care needs now can prevent stress and tension later.
Many families wait until a crisis occurs to evaluate care options, but proactive planning is key. At Concierge Care Advisors, we help families navigate the complexities of senior care, from finding the right living arrangements to understanding financial resources like VA benefits. Our trained and certified Senior Living Advisors are here to guide you every step of the way and are equipped to assist you and your family as you prepare for the future.
Ready to Start the Journey?
Don’t wait for a crisis to take action. If you’re concerned about an aging loved one, we can help you assess their needs and find solutions tailored to their lifestyle. Contact us today by filling out this form or calling 855-444-7364. Let’s create a plan together that ensures your loved one’s safety, happiness, and comfort—so you can enjoy many more holidays together.
And about those green beans? Nana’s secret was bacon grease and sugar. I’m still trying to perfect the recipe, but the memories are sweeter than ever.
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