By Nori Patnode, Certified Concierge Care Advisor
Helping a Loved One Transition to Assisted Living or an Adult Family Home: A Guide for Families
Moving to an Assisted Living Facility or Adult Family Home is a major life transition for seniors. Change is never easy—especially for someone who has lived independently for years, making their own decisions. As families, it’s crucial to approach the transition with patience, empathy, and open communication.
Rather than focusing solely on why your loved one needs to move, listen to their hopes and fears. This conversation is an essential part of the process. You’ll likely need to reiterate the practical reasons for the move, but first, take time to hear their concerns. Knowing they have a voice in the process can help them feel more in control.
Empower Your Loved One in the Moving Process
When seniors feel involved and empowered, the transition to assisted living or an adult family home becomes smoother. Here are some ways to help them feel in charge of the process:
- Involve Them in Downsizing Decisions
- Encourage them to decide what to keep and what to let go of.
- If they want to hold onto items that won’t fit in their new space, consider renting a small storage unit.
- Suggest giving sentimental items to loved ones—it can help them feel good about downsizing and passing on cherished memories.
- Set Up Their New Space to Feel Like Home
- Bring familiar items from their old home, such as favorite furniture pieces, books, wall art, and family photos.
- If they’re able and willing, invite them to help arrange their new room. This involvement can give them a sense of ownership.
- For those with memory loss or dementia, it may be better to set up the room in advance to reduce stress. Make the space safe, comfortable, and easy to navigate with clear walkways, labeled drawers, and accessibility for wheelchairs or walkers.
Support Seniors with Memory Loss During the Transition
Moving can be especially challenging for seniors with Alzheimer’s or dementia. In these cases, minimizing stress is the top priority.
- Prepare their favorite clothing and toiletries ahead of time to make them feel more at ease.
- Ensure clear walkways for safe ambulation and label drawers or cabinets to help them find personal items easily.
- Be patient—it may take time for them to feel settled, but with time and consistency, they are likely to experience a better quality of life in their new environment.
The Positive Impact of Assisted Living and Adult Family Homes
Many seniors resist the idea of moving because they fear losing independence, but the reality is that living in a community often leads to a renewed sense of purpose and happiness.
- Social Connection
- In assisted living, your loved one will have opportunities to meet new friends during shared meals or activities.
- Even seniors who say they aren’t social often blossom once they’re in an environment with like-minded peers.
- Engaging Activities
- Assisted Living Facilities and Adult Family Homes offer a variety of activities and events that encourage participation. From exercise programs to card games and outings, these activities keep seniors mentally and physically active.
- Dining Together
- In both assisted living and adult family homes, shared meals are an important part of the day. For seniors who have been isolated at home, mealtime becomes a social event where they reconnect with others and build friendships.
- Isolation at home can lead to depression, especially when seniors can no longer drive or easily participate in activities. Living in a supportive community helps them regain a sense of belonging and purpose.
Reassure Your Loved One with Visits and Quality Time
One of the greatest fears seniors face when moving to a new environment is the fear of being abandoned. Even if your parent or loved one doesn’t express their concerns, it’s essential to reassure them that you’ll remain present and involved.
- Visit regularly to show them they are not alone.
- Take them on outings—even a short car ride or some fresh air can lift their spirits.
- Follow through on your promises to spend time together. Knowing they can rely on you will provide comfort during the transition.
Plan for a Smooth Transition with Concierge Care Advisors
Moving to assisted living or an adult family home can be a positive and transformative experience when done with care and preparation. Your loved one will have the opportunity to enjoy a higher quality of life through social interaction, meaningful activities, and personalized care. If you’re ready to explore assisted living or adult family home options, Concierge Care Advisors is here to help. Contact us today for a free consultation, and let us guide you through the process—ensuring your loved one’s transition is smooth and successful.
