The Importance of Presence for Seniors: The Greatest Gift This Holiday Season
Presence—not presents—is often the most cherished gift for seniors during the holidays. Ironically, the best Christmas gift for your elderly loved ones is simply your presence.
Elders and the Holidays
As we get older, it’s common to see our parents or grandparents less often, usually limited to holidays. When marriage and in-laws enter the picture, balancing visits with multiple families can mean annual visits become bi-annual, or even less frequent.
If you have siblings, you might feel that your presence isn’t as necessary if others are visiting. As a result, visits grow scarce. The reality is, the longer you go without seeing your elders, the easier it can be to delay a visit altogether with a “maybe next year” mentality.
Unfortunately, for those with cognitive decline or health issues, “next year” might be too late. For loved ones facing memory loss, waiting another year could mean they no longer remember you. This is why the importance of presence for seniors cannot be overstated.
Presence vs. Presents
While gifts can bring joy, the number one item on your list should be spending time with loved ones. Who you choose to spend the holidays with is the greatest gift you can give. If your elderly loved one is alone and other family members aren’t visiting, that’s your cue. Even if relationships aren’t perfect, you can be sure they want to see you.
It’s a well-documented regret of those facing the end of life: “I wish I’d spent more time with loved ones.” Make sure to prioritize presence over presents this year.
For Those Who Cannot Be There
Sometimes, being present isn’t possible, no matter how much you want to be. If that’s the case, here are two ways to still show you care:
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Make the Call
Take time on the holiday to call your elderly loved one. Don’t just wish them a “Happy Holiday”—engage in a meaningful conversation. Listen to their stories and take an interest. Giving your undivided attention, even if only for a short while, can make a world of difference.
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Give Lifelong Presents
If you can’t be there in person, send something meaningful. Instead of a gift that will be gone in days, send a present that’ll remind them of you every time they use it. Photographs, collages, and frames are wonderful options, as are practical gifts they need, like a new pair of warm winter boots. Choose something that says, “I care about you.”
Concierge Care Advisors: Supporting Meaningful Connections for Seniors
At Concierge Care Advisors, we understand the value of connection and the importance of presence for seniors, especially during the holiday season. If you or a loved one need help creating meaningful support plans, our team is here to help. Contact us today to learn how we can provide compassionate guidance and resources, ensuring that seniors feel connected, valued, and cared for—even if you can’t always be there in person.
