By Scott Fleisch
Caring for Dad: A Family’s Journey into Caregiving
It’s been over a year since Dad came to live with us—my wife, our two sons (17 and 20), two lovable dogs, and me. A year since we got the call that Dad was on his way to the hospital, and his previous caregiver had reached their limit.
Our lives shifted overnight from a rescue mission to full-time caregiving—and honestly, I had no idea what I was getting into. The learning curve was steep, and while I can now say Dad is safe, loved, and well-cared-for, this journey has impacted every corner of our lives. When I say “I,” I really mean our whole family—immediate and extended—because caring for Dad has truly been a team effort.
Family Caregiving: A Group Effort
Having Dad with us has affected everyone in ways I didn’t initially realize. Our sons adjusted their routines around Dad, sacrificing their own time and freedom to be there for him. My wife, with her background in senior care, stepped in physically and emotionally, dedicating countless hours to his well-being. And our relationship? It’s changed too—every plan and decision we make must now include Dad’s care.
I am incredibly fortunate to have a supportive family—one that gives deeply, even when it’s hard. Without them, I wouldn’t have been able to take on this responsibility. My extended family and friends have pitched in wherever possible, and their support has been invaluable.
Still, the truth is that becoming a primary caregiver affects every aspect of life. It’s more than just an individual responsibility; it’s a family commitment. Everyone needs to be prepared for the reality of caregiving—mentally, emotionally, and practically.
Key Lessons We’ve Learned on This Journey
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that bringing a senior loved one into your home requires careful planning and total transparency. Here are the most important insights we’ve gathered along the way:
1. Make It a Family Decision
Caring for a parent at home isn’t something one person can—or should—do alone. It needs to be a unanimous decision, with everyone in the household fully on board. From managing daily routines to understanding individual roles, it’s important that each family member knows what’s expected and is willing to participate in the journey.
Having clear conversations about roles and responsibilities upfront is crucial. What will caregiving look like day to day? Who will handle meals, appointments, or personal care? These questions need to be addressed early to prevent misunderstandings and burnout.
2. Know When to Ask for Help
Even though my wife is experienced in senior care, we’ve leaned heavily on external resources and professionals. Social workers, doctors, and senior centers have all played pivotal roles in helping us navigate this overwhelming world of caregiving.
We’ve also discovered that companies like Concierge Care Advisors are indispensable when it comes to locating the best services, resources, and funding options. Their guidance has given us peace of mind, knowing that we’re doing everything possible to ensure Dad’s well-being. It’s okay to ask for help—in fact, it’s necessary. Caregiving can quickly become overwhelming if you try to do everything yourself.
3. Prepare for Emotional and Physical Challenges
Becoming a caregiver means more than just physical support; it’s also about emotional resilience. There will be times when you feel exhausted or stretched too thin. Relationships may change, routines may be disrupted, and sacrifices will need to be made. It’s important to check in with yourself and your family regularly to ensure that everyone is coping well and getting the support they need.
Caregivers often neglect their own needs—don’t fall into that trap. Taking breaks isn’t selfish; it’s necessary for your well-being. You can’t care for someone else if you’re running on empty. Utilize respite care or lean on friends and family when you need a breather.
What If It’s Too Much?
Not every family will be able to care for a loved one at home—and that’s okay. There is no shame in recognizing that another care setting may be the best option for your parent. What matters most is that your loved one is safe, cared for, and loved—whether that’s at home, in assisted living, or at an adult family home.
Caregiving is a deeply personal journey that looks different for everyone. It’s about doing what’s right for your family and your loved one—not meeting anyone else’s expectations. If bringing your parent home isn’t feasible, finding the right care environment for them is still an act of love and responsibility.
Closing Thoughts
Becoming a caregiver for a parent is a life-changing experience, filled with challenges, sacrifices, and moments of joy. It’s a role that requires courage, patience, and a whole lot of love. If you’re considering this path, make sure your family is united, your plans are clear, and that you’re ready to ask for help when needed.
Most importantly, remember that you’re not alone. There are professionals, resources, and communities ready to support you every step of the way. At Concierge Care Advisors, we’re here to help guide you through this journey with knowledge, compassion, and expertise. Whether you’re just starting or feeling overwhelmed, reach out to us.
📞 Call us at 855-444-7364 or Contact Us Here. We’re here to help you provide the best care possible—for your parent, your family, and yourself.
